Category Archives: Managing Our Emotions
Giving Swords to Folks
I have been taken by this old Celtic saying “Never give a sword to a man who cannot dance”. In this world of Terror, and the war against it, the Continue Reading →
My favourite (hilarious) TED talk on Positive Psychology
This talk by psychologist Shawn Achor from Harvard makes the important point that we must not construct happiness such that it exists over the success horizon. I also like the Continue Reading →
The Importance of Feeling Sorry for Yourself – Organise your self-pity party now!
Let’s wander into some Compassion Focused Therapy as I have had a number of patients recently apologise along the lines, ‘I’m sorry, I know I shouldn’t be feeling sorry for Continue Reading →
Nurturing the Soul, Not the Feelings
I recently had a fascinating session with one of my particularly capable and articulate patients last week. She has been in therapy with me for a couple of years over Continue Reading →
Fortunately, we’re not all jet fighter pilots – the ‘Art of the Slowfull Decision’
I often see people make decisions much more quickly than they need to. It is certainly a habit I am trying to rid myself of. As humans we feel the Continue Reading →
Managing an alcohol problem with meaning
One of my patients, a recently married, talented music producer, has been troubled for some time by his daily alcohol intake of often more than a bottle of wine a Continue Reading →
It’s scary, but what does that have to do with whether I do it or not?
I shared this thought, one of my ‘rememberings’, with one of my highly insightful, surprisingly enlightened, young patients. She said how as a young child she had journalled: ‘God doesn’t Continue Reading →
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Developing the Art of Giving
There are two types of Giving. There is the giving that expects a return (even if it is later down the track). Then there is the Giving where the reward Continue Reading →
Exercising freedom of choice – ‘Lag Time’ management
[This post is very much for my patients as an aide de memoir, it may not make much sense to others.] Three steps sit behind the process of changing our Continue Reading →